Recently, I flew to New York City to participate in a 3 day High Performance Lifestyle Performance occasion. I’d gotten to know the Founder, Brian Mazza when he was a visitor on my Midlife Male Podcast and he invited me out to expertise this occasion.
So what’s a excessive efficiency life-style? I’ve been asking myself that fairly a bit currently. Who determines what excessive efficiency is? Can I be excessive efficiency in some areas and never in others? How do I dwell a excessive efficiency life-style? Am I there but? What work continues to be but to be achieved and can I at all times be a piece in progress striving for prime efficiency life-style? At what level is a excessive efficiency life truly taking my foot off the fuel and permitting myself to enjoy the simple things in life? That’s gotta be some type of excessive efficiency too, proper?
At 50, I consider excessive efficiency is investing and dedication to continued improvement and growth. This Is what drives me to maintain making an attempt new issues, problem myself, dwell my message and lead by instance for my two teenage boys. A excessive efficiency life-style is realizing and dwelling like my greatest, brightest, happiest and healthiest days are nonetheless forward of me.
My new e-book, The Midlife Male,” is predicated on my Midlife Male Method, which I name the “6F’s”; Family, Fitness, Finance, Fashion & Fun and serving to males flip their F’s into A’s. So, I needed to share my 6F evaluation of this High Performance Lifestyle Training weekend.
But earlier than I get into the precise report card, listed here are a couple of takeaways and observations:
- We can do exhausting issues. Stepping outdoors your consolation zone is crucial to growth.
- Surround your self with folks that assist you and that proceed to degree up your life. They are in every single place. They exist and so they’re in search of you simply as a lot as you’re in search of them. Put your self on the market
- Every one of many women and men who attended (41 in all) has a plan. A private working system and as such is profitable. There have been all walks of life, ages, careers, variations, and so on. What was the identical with ALL was their dedication to preparation, consistency & accountability.
- Words that have been heard, lived and repeated all through the weekend: respect, goal, effort, angle, satisfaction, humility, vulnerability, neighborhood, prosperity, well being, household, self-discipline.
- All easy ideas. Simple is difficult. That’s why most don’t do it…
- We have decisions and selections to make every day. Make higher decisions, dwell a greater life. Again, it’s fairly easy.
- Physical challenges are accomplished by psychological energy. You can survive the chilly, the lactic acid construct up, the fatigue…If you refuse to stop. It was a easy phrase of recommendation from Marcus Luttrell that bought me by the water: “Look to the guy to the left of you and to the right. He’ll be suffering worse…Help those guys and you’ll be fine.”
- Everything we did, talked about and skilled will be utilized to EVERY space of life. It is ALL linked. How you do one factor is the way you do every thing.
- It’s all about sustaining the micro wins each day.
- Slow is clean, clean is quick. Just maintain shifting.
High Performance Lifestyle Training 6F Assessment
Family: Everything I do is to guide by instance for my household and my two boys specifically. They don’t must be excited by the identical issues that I’m. They don’t must do the identical issues that I do. Anything and every thing that they need to pursue in life is offered and I might encourage and assist them to do that.
But you will need to me that my boys see me inserting myself outdoors my consolation zone, difficult myself, not being afraid to attempt new issues, meet new folks, plan forward, practice for actions and challenges and to have an unbiased thoughts, physique and spirit. In this occasion, I used to be going to go to New York for HPLT on my own. In the long run, I look ahead to sharing a few of these experiences with my boys as they grow old. I met a tremendous 58-year-old lawyer from Canada who was there along with his son and was impressed by him.
Kate and Harper determined that they needed to come back to New York on the final minute (Auden was in Israel) I advised them initially that I didn’t suppose I might have any time to see them and that this was a jam packed itinerary, I wanted to remain laser centered and needed to get pleasure from all the expertise the best way that it was laid out. But perhaps it’s an indication of maturity and perspective that after they bought there I used to be so joyful to see them that it doesn’t matter what the period of time was going to be, I’d discover a method to spend a few of it with them.
Fitness: This one goes with out query. The total weekend consisted of serious bodily health challenges. We awoke at 4 a.m. to be educated by Navy SEAL Ray Cash Care and Marine Steve Eckert on the seashore and within the ocean by 5 a.m. We bought chilly, moist, sandy and needed to carry, drag and crawl ourselves and companions by numerous activations. We shaped a human chain and laid down, submerged within the 50-degree water for what appeared like fairly a very long time as waves crashed over us, flutter kicks ensued and instructions of lay day, roll over, head again, heels up have been barked at us. We did “Murph” later that afternoon which consisted of 1 mile run, 100 pullups, 200 pushups, 300 squats adopted by a one mile run. We woke for a 7 a.m. 10-mile run (I by no means run 10 miles) the next morning led by Ken Rideout.
All of this was achieved throughout the confines of a supportive neighborhood and it was a privilege to get to coach and compete alongside the perfect.
Finance: The approach I method these occasions and experiences when it comes to finance is that they’re investments in myself, my household and my future. The price ticket on this wasn’t low-cost however price each greenback spent because it returned tenfold. They offered every thing: meals, clothes, dietary supplements, prime audio system, trainers, panelists, amenities and a neighborhood of like minded folks. I additionally need to level out that based mostly on what I’m doing with Midlife Male; the publication and the podcast and my teaching purchasers, I’m now getting invited to occasions like this totally free. I’m aggregating and curating the Best in Class occasions and experiences to take males such as you together with me and to create midlife male VIP experiences at occasions like this sooner or later. I get pleasure from placing these occasions on the calendar, budgeting for them, coaching for them, trying ahead to them and reverse engineering find out how to dwell, function and finance the commitments that I make.
Food: There have been panels and seminars on diet from unimaginable human being and coach Jacob Zemer. Our meals have been introduced in for us all through the weekend for breakfast, lunch and dinner. They have been wholesome and tasted nice. They had dietary supplements and drinks and restoration stuff accessible for us from manufacturers equivalent to SLATE Milk, Vital Performance, Lemon Perfect, Holistik Wellness and extra. We have been additionally handled to dinner at Dan Churchill’s unimaginable restaurant, Charlie Street. As a foodie, it was astounding and Dan’s a stellar chef and athlete.
Fashion: What do occasions like HPLT like this should do with trend? Loads, truly. Fashion is type. Style is confidence. Confidence is efficiency. Ten Thousand gear offered outfits for all exercises all through the weekend. Branded shorts, shirts and tank tops. We wore coordinated outfits/uniforms for all occasions and it created a unified vibe. GoodLife Clothing firm offered an superior informal hoodie, joggers and shirt for every of us and KANE Footwear had customized HPLT NYC restoration sneakers for us. All of it got here packed up in a tactical backpack. Look good, really feel good, costume good, carry out good, that’s the high-performance motto.
Fun: This goes with out query for me. Why would you do one thing like this if it wasn’t enjoyable? These occasions are enjoyable for me. I genuinely like these things. That’s why I do it. Surrounding your self with like minded individuals who share the identical targets, visions, values, athleticism, goal, course of, payoff. It was a fucking blast. And we’ve recollections, friendships and bonds that can final a lifetime. I used to be chilly, moist and sandy, but by no means laughed more durable. I used to be as sore as I’ve ever been and nonetheless smiling. I awoke drained and struggling to get off the bed and but couldn’t wait to get downstairs and again at it.
Now, not every thing I do goes to verify all six F’s on a regular basis and get straight A’s….But that’s definitely the aim; to verify as many as attainable inside a framework and an working system that helps you maximize your excessive efficiency life-style with authenticity, with intention, with goal and to change into one of the best model of your self.