4 Things to Consider Before Trying It Backdoor for the First Time

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The Question

I believe I’m lastly able to strive anal intercourse however I’m apprehensive about a number of the dangers that include it. Is there a risk that I can get injured? I wish to make sure that I’m taking all the obligatory precautions. – Keith, New York, NY

The Answer

Congratulations. You’ve lastly mustered the braveness to have a boner go up your again door. And why not? After all, the prostate is an erogenous zone that may make your orgasms that rather more highly effective.

But as a result of I’m a self-described aspect and don’t sometimes partake in anal intercourse (I endure from colitis and I are typically a bit lazy), I hit up the ever-so-knowledgeable Jonathan Baker, PA-C, (a.okay.a. “Rectal Rockstar” on Instagram) for his experience on the topic.

Aside from the always-present danger of contracting an STI (use safety!) or HIV (once more, use safety or go on PrEP), listed below are the 4 largest issues (aside from the one large factor) to remember earlier than getting on all fours and assuming the place:

1. Douche, But Don’t Over-Douche

“I recommend starting with a fiber supplement, high fiber diet, and lots of hydration,” advises Baker. “Many people can eliminate fecal material just by optimizing what they eat and drink.” But if you wish to ‘clean out’ earlier than intercourse, he recommends utilizing a bulb-syringe or store-bought enema (i.e. fleets, however empty the liquid) with faucet water and not more than thrice.

“It’s best to limit this, as enema use is associated with anorectal damage and infections,” he provides. “Over-cleaning before sex can irritate the skin and make sex uncomfortable or even painful.”

2. Lube Up

“Apply lube liberally to both to the anus and the penis or fingers before insertion,” says Baker. “I recommend a silicone-based lube (like Wet Platinum) because it lasts a long time.”

And whereas numbing lube could look like a good suggestion in the event you’re apprehensive about ache, assume once more.

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“I advise against lube which has a numbing agent in it, because it can dull pain that would otherwise signal that something had gone wrong,” Baker says.

3. Take Things Slow

“During the initial insertion, take it slow and stop as often as needed,” says Baker. “Patience is key and remember that getting frustrated is going to cause the sphincter to tighten and possibly cause an injury. Both partners must work together and communicate to make anal sex work.”

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One great way to make sure it doesn’t go sooner than you need? Riding your companion cowboy model.

“Having the receptive partner on top allows them to control the speed of insertion,” Baker notes.

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4. Try to Relax

“Being relaxed and releasing the rest of the tension in your body will help relax the anal sphincter,” stresses Baker. “The anus reflexively tightens when touched, making foreplay with the anus essential.” 

If a fissure does happen, it should sometimes be extraordinarily painful. Should it proceed to bleed, search instant medical consideration.

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With all of this mentioned, don’t let the newfound data deter you from being sexually adventurous and giving bottoming a shot.

The most essential facet of placing your legs behind your head is to discover a companion that you would be able to belief. This particular person ought to train a major quantity of persistence and talk with you alongside the best way. There ought to be zero strain to utterly undergo with it, and you need to by no means really feel rushed or in ache.

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Additionally, in the event you really feel like getting a rod up your rectum will robotically make you homosexual, recover from your self. Concrete data means that round a 3rd of heterosexual individuals get pleasure from anal intercourse. Consider it exploration and don’t assume any extra about it.

Life is just too brief and it’s supposed to be pleasurable. You don’t wish to be in your deathbed trying again and pondering, “I really wish John had rammed me good when the opportunity presented itself.”

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